Although things are constantly changing, some analyzes suggest that women are about 20% less likely to use generative AI than men. “It’s a job that’s not about gender per se, but about the careers that women have,” Rodgers suggests. Women are disproportionately represented in the jobs – education, health care, and social services – that currently use AI less. The result can be a double defect. Over time, this means less access to the financial rewards of the boom, and greater responsibility for the local employment it generates.
And what happens when it doesn’t work out with men? Many, if not most, will not succeed in AI, a lucrative but volatile business. “With job loss comes some depression,” Rodgers says. “Within a family, if one person is experiencing negative mental health impacts due to job loss or uncertainty, the other will naturally become the support person.” The cruel irony for some grieving wives is that the moment their husbands leave the AI, whether by choice or by force, there will be no relief. Now he is at home. Ascending. Now she manages that too.
He was getting closer The end of my therapy session. I’ve been rambling on for 50 minutes about the mental load, changing hormones, and whether postpartum depression can really be traced back to the fact that it took longer than expected to get into my jeans. Then the therapist interrupted me and asked me what exactly my partner had done at work again. “Oh,” I said. “Well, he’s the head of his company’s AI department.”
What she said next, I had to write. She admitted that her client base consists almost entirely of women, that is, women whose husbands are often professionally adjacent to AI. And it affects their relationships. The pressure to keep going means there are no boundaries at home. very masculine The energy of everything. And the constant fighting that is over something greater Of them. He has gone to another world, a world of claims, standards and manifestations, while she is firmly established in this world.
Resentment quietly builds. Many of these grieving wives have turned down career opportunities in artificial intelligence themselves, Moalji added. Not because they are incompetent, but because it is difficult to raise children and disrupt civilization at the same time.
Princess Diana famously said that there were three people in her marriage. For the grieving wives of AI, the third is the chatbot. I talked to a few other family therapists, and they agreed with me: The phenomenon is getting worse. “There are too many tech wives,” one of them said with a sigh. “A lot of tech wives.”
Tiktok meme It’s been making the rounds lately: young women sitting at their laptops or applying their makeup, captioning something like, “I’m working hard so my husband can work at this AI startup that’s losing $30,000 a month.” The comments section stands in solidarity: “I’m dead.” “Queen of Yas.” “Just so he can add the word ‘founder’ on his resume.” I tried to connect with some of these women. Nothing a little.
I must also say that I haven’t bothered to talk to any of the actual couples about this story. I’m tired of hearing from the AI guys. Many of us are. They have audio files, Senate hearings, magazine profiles, and maybe a group chat with the president. They’ve been talked to – and I can’t stress this enough –enough.
